Are We on Trial?
You may not realize it, but not only are we on trial, we have put others on trial as well.
Chances are that we haven't gone to law school, or been appointed as judge, or hand-picked for a jury. For most of us, that's not necessary, however. We've attended our own mental law school, appointed ourselves as judge and jury, and all this from the comfort of our own home. Pretty amazing, I'd say.
Judging others and oneself is a common occurrence. We all do it. Some to a larger degree than others, but it happens. There are ample reasons why we choose to judge. Here is a sample:
1) We judge others because we are fearful. What we don't understand we fear. And not only do we fear it, we project our own made up images on to them. Most of us carry a lot of baggage around. That heavy load has been with us for a while, clouding our perception; making interpretations and judgments to which we have no right.
2) We judge others when we wrongly believe what someone else tells us. How do we even know it's true? How do they? And even if it is, what's it to us? We have appointed ourselves judge and jury, but no one else has. It's time we got busy living our lives and not condemning others on how they live theirs.
3) We judge others without facts. An actual judge gathers all the facts before making a decision. He/she even has a jury to help decide what the true facts are. Do we do that? Hardly. We just spew whatever comes into our minds, usually without any filter whatsoever. Just based on what we think. As if our thoughts were always 100% correct. We may think we know, but in a lot of the cases, we actually don't.
4) We judge others to feel superior. Think about it, if Johnny is a bum for only working part-time, we're excellent because we work full-time. If Jane is a sloth because she's overweight, then maybe we're something special because we're fit! You get the idea. By judging others we elevate ourselves. Or at least we think we do.
5) We judge others to bond with someone else. It feels good to be co-conspirators, to talk behind someone's back, put them on trial without a defense team. It's cowardly! We may want to bond with someone else, but there are better ways to do that. Let's bond over a show we watch on Netflix, or about the fact we both drive Jeeps, or our love for Weimaraners, etc.
Let's take a break. A long, long break. How about a lifetime break from judging others? It's not our place. Our journey here is to work on ourselves. To improve who we are and to continually stretch and grow. How are we going to do that if we're busy telling others how to do that?