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Rossana Snee is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. She is the mother of two grown sons, and the wife of an elevator mechanic who is the wind beneath her wings. She is an avid reader, whose passions include playing two instruments, painting, languages, and working out.

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How to Communicate: The Do's and The Dont's

Effective communication is key to a successful and happy life. Generally, unless you are living in the Alaskan wilderness, by yourself, off the grid, you can't get through the day without having to communicate with friends, family, co-workers, and just about everybody else in the world. If you're not communicating in the right way, you could actually be alienating, hurting, or talking down to people with whom you come into contact.

Most people think that just because they are talking and expressing their feelings, they're communicating properly. Maybe they are. But are they listening to the other person? Are they asking questions, are they speaking with respect and empathy?

Here are some tips to communicating more effectively:

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Show a Little Compassion

It's easy to sit on a high horse, to feel superior, and to judge others. But here's the thing, when we judge another person, we're defining ourselves as someone with a need to judge.

If we encounter someone, and determine that they are weak-minded, we are not showing compassion. We're simply entertaining a thought. And just because we have a thought, or a belief about something, doesn't make it so. In fact, the other person may have a completely opposing view. Who's to say they're wrong?

Us? How do we know that?

What we need to do is to learn to be compassionate. The true issue is our response to the other person.

Let's stop and take a different action. Next time we encounter someone that we hunger to judge, let's remember that the issue is not "out there." It is in us. It is in the way we see the situation or the person.

It is the thoughts and the beliefs that we have that are the root of all the problems. We try to enforce them on others not realizing that they have their own and that they believe is right.

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